Wednesday, June 13, 2007

The perfect men

Well girls (or homosexual men) that read my blog would you please do me the honor of describing exactly what your idea of the perfect men is? Please do not say, my husband, my boyfriend or any other significant other, just describe the person please.

Now you probably wonder why in the hell I would ask that. Well it is because of a friend story (I'm well aware that 99% of the time when we say something happened to a friend it had happened to us but this rest squarely in the 1%). You see my friend (who does not read this blog hopefully) wanted to date this woman, not the most attractive woman to me but he really like her so we encouraged him to try. Well he finally got a date, to go and see a show... and thing fell appart for him there, first off he didn't sit with her (kinda of a bad sign for a date) and then afterward when he was driving her back to her apartment she proceeded to tell him about her "perfect" guy... all the while he was falling in the friend black hole.

Now please post your version before you read the following... please to be fair.... come on I know your still reading...

Well basically what she told him is kinda depressing, I don't have all the details (we decided not to press the poor guy to much about that) but it rolls down to... She wants a guy that controls her but let her be free. That choose the movies but choose the one she likes always, that is ambitious but place her above his job. That makes lots of money but no more then she does (she's gonna be a medical doctor). That is passionate about thing but will never argue with her or have opinion different then she does except when she wants him to. And finally the only thing that don't involve a contradiction good looking and taller then she is. (And as a joke I would add that sign Celine Dion but on a Death metal beat.)

Now I understand my ever relaxing "standard" (for a girl) can be high but they don't involve actual paradox or contradiction do they? If they do I'm sure yofed and piccolo will point them out :-p

4 comments:

yofed said...

Wow! That girl really is delusionnal! lol

BTW, I got the happy pix on lpboy...

Piccolo said...

Ouain, cette fille ne trouvera jamais un gars assez bon pour elle! Il est certain que j'ai toujours rêvé du prince charmant, le genre de gars qui te donne une rose, pour rien, juste parce que. Celui qui est prêt à tout pour mon bien être. Mais je voulais aussi un homme qui pouvait être indépendant. Qui fasse ses choses de son côté en me laissant faire les mienne. Je n'ai jamais rêvé d'un médecin ou d'un pharmacien, capable de me payer tout ce que je veux! Je veux juste un homme capable de m'accepter, avec mes défauts et mes qualités, qui ne voudra pas me changer.

Cet homme dnt je rêvais devais aussi vouloir un jour des enfants. Être un papa présent pour eux. Un père qui pleurerait l'enfant malade, mais qui garderait son sang froid dans des situations difficiles.

Dans le fond, je voulais un mâle viril, mais qui montre un peu, parfois, ses sentiments. Mais ses sentiments envers moi et ses enfants. Pas besoin de les étaler à la terre entière.

Physiquement, j'ai toujours eu un faible pour les bruns. Les blonds, sauf pour Brad Pitt ne m'intéressent pas nécessairement. À moins d'être fantastique sur d'autres plans. Ce gars devrait être plus grand que moi, pas de problème avec ça, à moins de tomber en amour avec un nain... J'ai toujours eu un faible pour les trombonistes, depuis le secondaire en plus! Mais je ne voulais pas sortir avec un musicien. Trop de points communs. Je veux pouvoir garder mon indépendance, mais en étant capable de vivre dans un couple qui se tient. Chacun sa voie.

Oui, mon homme actuel a beaucoup de ces points en commun avec mes rêves, mais il n'est pas assez romantique. Mais bon, je n'ai jamais voulu changer l'homme avec qui je serais. Alors, j'ai abandonné tout espoir de recevoir des fleurs, juste comme ça.

Pour moi, l'amour ne se qualifie pas sur un plan de toute façon. Nous avons toujours nos illusions, nos espoirs, mais lorsqu'on le croise cet amour, on se rend souvent compte que notre vision de la chose peut changer aussi. Chercher l'homme ou la femme parfaite nous mènera à rien, parce qu'il y aura toujours des détails pour nous chicotter un peu! Ou beaucoup!

Piccolo said...

Ha oui, mon homme idéal ne devait pas jouer aux jeux de rôles... La preuve qu'on ne peut pas tout avoir dans le vie! soupir...

anyflower said...

Ideal man...

He has to be gentle yet strong. Never violent. He has to respect me at all times, even when we're arguing (hard to do but feasible). He has to care about other people's feelings while being able to live his own life for what he believes in. He has to know what he wants but be able to make place in his plans for other people's plans (flexibility). He doesn't need to have certain high beauty standards, I don't mind chubby. The guy needs to have wits and humor and be able to accept to be picked on often(with respect and love), you know in the teasing way.

The perfect men has to feel totally himself with me as I can totally feel myself with him. He has to be somewhat independant but to really enjoy being with me and to show his love in whatever ways he has. The perfect man is not waiting for me to do chores, he can live on his own without expecting his girlfriend/wife to be his second mom.